HELP! EVERYONE HAS AN OPINION: HOW TO STAY TRUE TO WHAT YOU WANT

Planning a wedding comes with a lot of emotions — and often, a lot of opinions too. From the moment you get engaged, it can feel like everyone has something to say. Your mum has thoughts on the guest list. Your friend wants to talk themes. Your aunt thinks chair covers are essential (they’re not). And suddenly, the wedding you were so excited about starts to feel… less like yours. If you’re feeling pulled in every direction, this is your gentle reminder: you are absolutely allowed to make choices that feel right for you.

Here’s how to stay grounded when the opinions start flying —

1. Listen (But Don’t Feel Pressured to Agree)

Sometimes advice comes from a kind place. Sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, you don’t have to take it on board.

Smile. Say thank you. Then carry on with what feels right.

2. Anchor Yourself in What Matters Most

When the noise gets loud, return to your why.

What do you want the day to feel like? Who is it really for?

Write that down and keep it somewhere close. Whether you want a huge celebration or a quiet garden ceremony, you don’t need to explain your choices if they feel right to you.

3. You Don’t Have to Share Every Detail

Not everyone needs a full rundown of your plans. It’s okay to keep some decisions just between the two of you.

If you know someone always has something negative to say, be vague.

“We’re still deciding!” is a handy phrase for keeping things simple and stress-free.

4. Have a Go-To Phrase for Tricky Conversations

You don’t have to debate every detail. Try:

• “That sounds lovely — we’re doing something a little different.”

• “We’ve got it covered, but thank you for the suggestion.”

• “We’ve chosen what suits us best and we’re really happy with it.”

Kind but clear.

5. You’re Not Being ‘Difficult’ — You’re Being True to You

Standing up for what you want doesn’t make you a problem — it makes you clear.

And clarity is a gift when you’re planning something so personal.

You’re allowed to say no. You’re allowed to set boundaries.

You’re allowed to create a wedding day that feels like you.

A Final Note

Weddings are emotional. They bring people together — and sometimes that means navigating a few bumpy conversations. But you’re not alone.

If you ever need a calm, unbiased voice in your corner, I’d love to help. That’s what I do — make the process feel less overwhelming, and a lot more you.

Thank you for taking the time to check out my blog- I really appreciate it!

With Love,

Lauren x